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15+ questions to ask your partner before becoming a stepmum

Love the second time around is lovelier, but it’s also more complicated. Supporting your relationship to navigate the extra complexities that come with forming a stepfamily is a big job. And, one to start off right. Thinking of taking the plunge and marrying or moving in with the love of your life & his kids? […]

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On the outside looking in? Insider/Outsider relationships in stepfamilies

Feel like an outsider in your own home? Let me guess, you’re a stepparent, right? Stepfamilies are different from first-time families. Despite that seeming like such common-sense, many adults in stepfamilies still assume their stepfamily will function just like a first-time family. Those expectations of fitting a round peg (think stepfamily) into a square hole […]

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The Secret to Stepparent Happiness: Stop Caring So Much

When I look back at my stepparent journey I can’t believe how much time I wasted on things that I either couldn’t control or at the end of the day didn’t bring me closer to my goal of having a stepfamily & life I love. It seemed as soon as the title of stepmother descended […]

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Top Tips For New Stepparents

Becoming a stepparent can be daunting. Figuring out your role as a stepparent — aside from the day-to-day responsibilities that come with it —may lead to confusion, uncertainty or even conflict between you and your partner, your partner’s Ex, and the kids. There is a lot of information and advice out there to help you […]

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Stepfamilies, Time, Trade-offs & Tough Choices

We all want to think (and hope) that once we have found our king or queen, happily ever after and a blissful family will automatically follow. But if you have ever experienced heartbreak and divorce you know the reality is that happy families (and healthy relationships) don’t just happen because we fall in love. They […]

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A different Christmas

The carols are playing, the decorations are up and strings of lights are strung over houses with care. It all seems rather normal, but for repartnered families having a first (or tenth!) Christmas together, it can feel pretty surreal. We share Christmas with my stepson’s mother. One year he spends Christmas Eve and early Christmas […]

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The Ties That Bind: Loyalties in stepfamilies

  Like mother, like daughter. Like father, like son. We’ve all heard these proverbs. Some of us may have even reiterated them once or twice about our nieces or nephews, our close friends’ children, our own kids or our stepchildren. The sayings reflect what we know. Children tend to identify with their same-sex parent and […]

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8 Lessons From Walt Disney Other Than Stepmothers Are Wicked

In last week’s post, Ignoring Cinderella – A Stepmother’s Perspective, we promised a list of positive messages from Walt Disney relevant for stepfamilies AND don’t involve wicked stepmothers. Our top 8 are below: Stepfamilies are different from any other family type. Rather than blending in, stepfamilies do best when they accept the individual differences of […]

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