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The Secret to Stepparent Happiness: Stop Caring So Much

When I look back at my stepparent journey I can’t believe how much time I wasted on things that I either couldn’t control or at the end of the day didn’t bring me closer to my goal of having a stepfamily & life I love. It seemed as soon as the title of stepmother descended […]

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13 Things I’ve Learnt From 13 Years as a stepmum

A few weeks ago was the ‘anniversary’ of the day I met my stepson for the first time. I had dated his dad for 6 months before meeting him. My stepson was 2 ½ and I was 30 years old. We’ve both grown a lot since then and here’s a few things I learned along […]

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The Name Game: What do kids call their stepparents?

Labels and language are important. If you didn’t think so before, their importance becomes absolutely unavoidable when you journey into the world of a stepfamily. You just have to think of the plethora of names and labels used to describe stepfamilies: blended, merged, reformed, reorganised, recycled, repartnered and second time round families (to name but […]

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13 Ways to Encourage Bonding Between Step-Grandparents & Their Grandkids

I was lucky enough to grow up surrounded by grandparents – 6 in fact. A situation brought about because each of my parents grew up as only children and, as children, they each experienced the pain of divorce and the adjustment that comes along when parents repartner. By the time my parents met, married and […]

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The Ties That Bind: Loyalties in stepfamilies

  Like mother, like daughter. Like father, like son. We’ve all heard these proverbs. Some of us may have even reiterated them once or twice about our nieces or nephews, our close friends’ children, our own kids or our stepchildren. The sayings reflect what we know. Children tend to identify with their same-sex parent and […]

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Meeting The Kids For The First Time – How To Make It Positive

So, you read our previous post, Are We There Yet – When Is The Right Time To Introduce A New Relationship To Your Children?, and you and your partner have decided it’s time for you to meet your future stepkids. Feeling excited and extremely nervous all at the same time is par for the course. […]

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Are we there yet? – When is it the right time to introduce a new relationship to your children?

Long after the ink dries on your divorce papers your children may continue to harbour the hope that their mum and dad will reconcile. Seeing a parent with a new person seriously dents this fantasy and can be emotionally difficult for children to come to grips with. It can also affect the way in which […]

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Why Good Enough May Be Just Perfect: Stepparent Expectations

Let’s face it, stepfamilies are formed after divorce, the death of a parent or the marriage of a single parent who has, up to that point, raised their child alone. Stepfamilies do not come to pass without all those involved having already lived through at least one major life event and all the stressors that […]

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Boundaries & Stepfamilies

Never underestimate the importance of boundaries. When you don’t have them you end up either walking all over the people in your life or getting walked on. Savvy stepfamilies make sure neither of these happens in their homes! You know the saying ‘choose your battles’? Recognition that you, as a stepparent, get to have a […]

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Blending sucks

Want your stepfamily to succeed? Make sure you suck at blending. ‘To blend’ means to mix one thing with another until they are combined. ‘Blended’ conjures up images of the best banana smoothie you’ve ever tasted – with all the ingredients combined together in perfect taste-bud tantalising harmony. But successful stepfamilies know they may react […]

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