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Category Archives: Stepparent

Step-parenting Obstacles: Shadows

I was reading a book the other day, “Between Two Homes – A Coparenting Handbook” by Bradley S. Craig, specifically chapter three which talks about the obstacles to establishing a successful cooperative, post separation parental relationship. Of the eight obstacles Bradley Craig talks about, there was one in particular that I think is also a […]

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Stepparent Wellbeing: Who’s On Your Team?

Call it what you will – a team, peeps, clan, kinfolk, your tribe. Most everyone has one. The group of ‘A-lister’ individuals you surround yourself with and can turn to whenever the occasion calls – and sometimes even when it doesn’t, just because they are a swell group of people who you like being around […]

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Top Tips For New Stepparents

Becoming a stepparent can be daunting. Figuring out your role as a stepparent — aside from the day-to-day responsibilities that come with it —may lead to confusion, uncertainty or even conflict between you and your partner, your partner’s Ex, and the kids. There is a lot of information and advice out there to help you […]

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I am a Stepmother. I am a Lighthouse.

There is no guide on how to stepparent. No ‘What to Expect When You’re Expecting’ stepparent-style best seller. There’s no wise proverbs, ‘old wives tales’ or oral stories passed down from generation to generation to provide guidance and support to new stepparents about to embark on their stepparenting journey. Soon-to-be stepparents do not get baby […]

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A Crisis of Stepmother Faith

The other day one of my best friends, who is both a mother and stepmother, made some comments that seemed to suggest she was experiencing some intense doubt and internal conflict about her 13 relationship with her stepdaughter. Recently, she said, she was finding herself being more and more affected by her stepdaughter’s (and her […]

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13 Things I’ve Learnt From 13 Years as a stepmum

A few weeks ago was the ‘anniversary’ of the day I met my stepson for the first time. I had dated his dad for 6 months before meeting him. My stepson was 2 ½ and I was 30 years old. We’ve both grown a lot since then and here’s a few things I learned along […]

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Build a Better Relationship With Your Stepkid

If you ask any stepparent to name their top three stepfamily challenges, odds are their relationship with their stepkids is going to be somewhere on that list. Stepparents everywhere know there is little joy to be found in searching for their place with children who already have two parents. But, in finding their place, the […]

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The Name Game: What do kids call their stepparents?

Labels and language are important. If you didn’t think so before, their importance becomes absolutely unavoidable when you journey into the world of a stepfamily. You just have to think of the plethora of names and labels used to describe stepfamilies: blended, merged, reformed, reorganised, recycled, repartnered and second time round families (to name but […]

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The Ties That Bind: Loyalties in stepfamilies

  Like mother, like daughter. Like father, like son. We’ve all heard these proverbs. Some of us may have even reiterated them once or twice about our nieces or nephews, our close friends’ children, our own kids or our stepchildren. The sayings reflect what we know. Children tend to identify with their same-sex parent and […]

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