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Category Archives: Co-Parenting

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Stepfamilies, Time, Trade-offs & Tough Choices

We all want to think (and hope) that once we have found our king or queen, happily ever after and a blissful family will automatically follow. But if you have ever experienced heartbreak and divorce you know the reality is that happy families (and healthy relationships) don’t just happen because we fall in love. They […]

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Self-regulation – why it’s important for stepfamilies & co-parents

Self-regulation – why it’s important for stepfamilies and co-parents. Self-regulation is being able to manage feelings (particularly big feelings) so they don’t intrude heavily on our relationships or when going about our day-to-day life. It relates to the ability to resist losing it in situations where we are upset, frustrated or just plain pissed off […]

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Tips For Managing Family Traditions in Your Stepfamily

The ways in which we engage with our nearest and dearest and extended family on a regular, perhaps daily, weekly or even annual basis, form the basis of our family traditions and rituals. Traditions that range from ordinary routines and day-to-day activities – think those parents who routinely give their children a hug before leaving for […]

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Softly Softly – how to address co-parenting and step-parenting issues in a softer way

As people who are ex-partners and step-parents, it’s essential to learn how to manage conflict in a healthy way. Meeting anger with hostility (or vice versa) only continues to destroy trust and is also not a good example to set to the children about effective communication, how to manage big emotions or to resolve conflict. […]

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Making Transitions Easier: tips for stepparents & co-parents

What are transitions? Transitions are the movement or changes from one position, stage or state to another. These changes can be gradual or sudden and last for differing periods of time. They can be emotional, physical, intellectual or even physiological. There are many different transitions children and young people face in their lives, a number […]

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What To Try When Cooperative Parenting With The Ex Proves To Be A Pipe Dream

‘Mutually co-operative parenting’ and ‘shared parenting’ are terms typically used when talking about the gold star type of parenting for separated parents. It implies parents that are able to work together for the sake of their children. That, with the assistance of with time, distance (and maybe even therapy), parents have been able to move […]

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Kids, Separated Parents, Step-Families and School Success

Prior to separation, when parents lived together in the one home, they each had a role in monitoring and guiding their children’s schooling, essential to academic success. This does not change just because they are now separated and living in different households. It certainly makes it harder. Especially, when there are tons of things about […]

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6 Tips for Stepparents/Co-parents to navigate the back-to-school madness

For many families the start of the school term and the return to school is a looming presence that generates a sense of palpable unease. The back-to-school madness, coupled by parents who operate from two separate homes juggling their respective household’s needs, brings with it a unique set of challenges. The pressure of organising enrollments, […]

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Finding Your Stepparent Rhythm

One of the most difficult challenges as a stepparent can be knowing when to step up and when to step back. There’s been many times during my stepmothering career that I’ve felt like I was doing the ‘Cha-Cha’ – two steps forward two steps back – at the wrong time and to the wrong music. […]

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