Books can be a tremendous help in explaining significant life events such as divorce and separation to children and in supporting children as they confront (and cope with) emotional challenges in their daily life.
The middle is not typically a place where any of us chooses to be. Think about flying, most of us prefer and are even willing to pay extra for the aisle or window seat on a plane. Depending on what we are queuing for, we tend to push to be at the front of the… Continue reading Fathering From The Middle – support for biological fathers in stepfamilies
Whilst likeability and attraction can be instant, relationships however do not just appear. Meaningful and long-lasting relationships and secure attachments between us and others are built, established and maintained over time. Relationships are also by no means static. They can (and will) change and are influenced by time, experiences and life and developmental stages. The… Continue reading The Relationship Difference
It is a fact that some children’s mothers or fathers are absent from their children’s lives by choice or bereavement. It is also a fact that some stepparents choose to be a daily presence in these same children’s lives by choice. Despite what others may think, an absent biological parent does not make a stepparent’s… Continue reading The Phantom Ex: An ever-present, non-present biological parent
Language warning: This post contains language that may be offensive to some readers. So you’ve found the love of your life and they are perfect EXCEPT that they are useless at parenting. At least from your perspective. There aren’t too many stepparents out there who haven’t at one time or another thought ‘what the hell… Continue reading Worried your partner is a sh@!ty parent to your stepkids?
Like mother, like daughter. Like father, like son. We’ve all heard these proverbs. Some of us may have even reiterated them once or twice about our nieces or nephews, our close friends’ children, our own kids or our stepchildren. The sayings reflect what we know. Children tend to identify with their same-sex parent and… Continue reading The Ties That Bind: Loyalties in stepfamilies