Changes and challenges are completely unavoidable when stepfamily forms. Here are some things you can do to support your child’s emotional health and wellbeing and help them adjust to their stepfamily reality.
Books can be a tremendous help in explaining significant life events such as divorce and separation to children and in supporting children as they confront (and cope with) emotional challenges in their daily life.
Mother’s Day is annually observed in Australia and New Zealand on the second Sunday of May. It is an opportunity for everyone to pay tribute to their mothers and to thank them for all their love and support. For stepfamilies however, this day of appreciation of all things mothers can raise a whole lot of… Continue reading Stepmothers and Mother’s Day, Trials and Tribulations
Research tells us that stepfamilies are at greater risk for divorce and separation than ‘first’ families due to the unavoidable stresses that accompany stepfamily life. The first two years in particular are considered a period of greatest challenge for “newly” formed stepfamilies. Whilst jumping right on in and hoping for the best is one approach stepparents… Continue reading Tips and strategies to help stepparents talk with their partner
Whoever you are and whatever your circumstances, love is complex. Within stepfamilies however, love can be very complex. Especially when it comes to stepparents and stepchildren. This is thanks, in part, to a really distinctive attribute of the stepparent-stepchild relationship which is that love, is ultimately a decision. Think about it. People become stepparents because… Continue reading When love doesn’t come to town – What to do when you don’t love your stepchildren.
Summer holidays are just about over. Can you hear that school bell ringing in the not-so-distant future? No matter how many times you’ve done it before, crossing the school gates in your stepparent role can be daunting. Boundaries between a stepparent and an ex can be blurry at the best of times. But heading back… Continue reading 5 tips for managing back to school Stepmum-style
It’s that time of the year when it’s easy for coparents, stepparents and children to get caught up in the calendars, traditions, and negotiations for time together and time apart associated with the end of year holiday season. (We have some articles on those topics too: Tips for Managing Family Traditions in Your Stepfamily, 7… Continue reading Tips For Stepfamily Gift-Giving
I was reading a book the other day, “Between Two Homes – A Coparenting Handbook” by Bradley S. Craig, specifically chapter three which talks about the obstacles to establishing a successful cooperative, post separation parental relationship. Of the eight obstacles Bradley Craig talks about, there was one in particular that can also be a hidden… Continue reading Stepparenting Obstacles: Shadows
Becoming a stepparent can be daunting. Figuring out your role as a stepparent — aside from the day-to-day responsibilities that come with it —may lead to confusion, uncertainty or even conflict between you and your partner, your partner’s Ex and/or the kids. There is a lot of information and advice out there to help you… Continue reading Top Tips For New Stepparents
When your stepchild seeks to exclude you or worse still reject you, your spouse/their parent and their entire stepfamily , it can be difficult to know how to react or what to do. It can be especially painful when you believe that you have gone out of your way to try and forge a relationship… Continue reading Undercut & Undermined – what to do if your stepchild resists contact because parental authority is being undermined